How To Find The Root Of Anything That’s Bothering You? #1

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This is the 1st post out of 3 that will help you gain a better understanding of the root of anything that is bothering you in your life. This thing – called fear, has many levels and it shows itself in various ways. A deep understanding of it, will help you find it behind each and every one of its masks and to overcome it.

There are 2 things that need to be understood before we can go any deeper. The 1st thing is the recognition that ANYTHING that bothers you comes from within YOU. Seriously, I mean anything. Let me explain – think of the last time that something made you feel worried. If you would place all the people in the world in the same situation, will they all be worried? Ofcourse not. Different people, with different life experiences and different thoughts, respond differently to the same situation. So did the situation create the problem, or was it the one who perceived it? Was your worry objective or subjective?

Am I saying that you are responsible for the fact that your boss just fired you from work and now you don’t have any money? No. What I’m saying is that this is not what bothers you. What bothers you is the worry that arise as a result. And this worry is just fear wearing a mask. Therefore, the fact that you just got fired can be handled without the fear (worry) that is currently involved and is what causing you suffering. As Captain Jack Sparrow (Pirates of the Caribbean) said:

Now, the 2nd thing that needs to be discussed and understood, is that in order to recognize (and solve) the things that bother you, you have to make a decision to do so. A decision to start looking at yourself, all the time, and understand that nothing, nothing, is responsible for your suffering but your perception. You don’t agree with me? than you will become a slave for an endless amount of randomly changing external factors for the rest of your life. What do you choose?

All that being said, tomorrow I will explain how to analyze each and every thing that bothers you, find all the different fears that are involved (there are a few in each situation) and finally how to overcome them all.

No Fear,
LOVE.

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96 comments on “How To Find The Root Of Anything That’s Bothering You? #1

  1. Lindsay Hawk says:

    Great read!! This really hit home for me and I agree with Jack Soarrow 100%!! Can’t wait to read more on this topic :)

  2. Healthy A-Z says:

    Really great post! This is a wonderful lead in to the post I planned to write today. Wow! Such synchronicity! Look forward to parts 2 & 3, too. <3

  3. Lindsay Hawk says:

    Great read!! This really hit home for me at this time in my life. I couldn’t agree with Capt. Jack Sparrow more! :) Look forward to more on this topic.

  4. leelotchka44 says:

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  5. Wow, I am at this state right now and first in my Inbox is this. very timely! Can’t wait for 2&3. Thanks. :)

  6. thebloggerssoliloquy says:

    Wonderful. I’ve never really needed to find the root of a problem (or I think I haven’t) but this seems damn useful to people who may.

  7. Slayer Muser says:

    “Whenever anything external bothers you, remember it is not the thing itself that is the problem but your own estimation of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” [Marcus Aurelius, 'Meditations', Book VIII, Chapter 47]

  8. Katana says:

    Hello! I noticed you liked my blog and I’m all about supporting others in this constant movement towards higher states of consciousness. I think this blog article is very true and I have gotten into many debates over this. Personally, I accept my life as my own creation & I accept my power to create. Daily meditation is a good reminder for me that I AM the one in control of my feelings, thoughts, and life.

  9. Very well said! I really enjoyed it, good post.

  10. macki12 says:

    The Pirates of the Caribbean quote could not have worked any better. i enjoyed this :)

  11. So very simple and yet, eye opening.

  12. Ever so true. It is the practice of noticing the fear thought right before it hooks you. There is an official term for it. It is a hijacking of the mind with a thought of worry or fear. You have about 90 seconds to turn it around before the hijacking takes place. So be in the practice of noticing the hijack thought. In love……..

  13. I forget the term for it.

  14. ibeelaw says:

    I’ve been trying, for a really long time, to articulate that we are responsible for our feelings and perceptions. I’ve been trying to tell people that it is necessary to look at their own self, study their own self and understand their own self. I mean how else can you really be in control? Thank you for this post!

  15. hims says:

    axiom yaar, i am indeed realizing it

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  17. So true! I have so reacted in knee jerk responses out of fear or worry of the unknown. I would like to know your thoughts on being ‘responsible to someone’ versus being ‘responsible for someone’ and how fear plays into which one of those we choose to act with upon our current situation.

  18. sayohmmm says:

    This is great, I’m looking forward the next two posts about this subject. You are awesome!

  19. When things bother you it is generally FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real). Address your fear by being at cause over your life instead of at effect. The only thing to fear is fear itself. If you master that you will not worry.
    http://yourpassiontoreality.com/free-cds/ (Master your fears)

    Art Noel

  20. I like the look of this, it chimes with me. Looking forward to coming back and reading properly and reading more. Thank you for your visit too, delighted you liked the post and always great to get feedback. -Arran.

  21. love that tree! reminds me of what i am looking for in my potential tattoo, which will symbolize many aspects of my life

  22. kafkassister says:

    Great post and so timely! Thanks!

  23. this really helps with how I felt yesterday…this is great therapy for me :) lol..looking forward to reading the other parts!

  24. buddhasal says:

    Interesting. Perception can be devilish at times putting one in bad place to overcome challenges and adversities. It’s all in the mind. I’ll stop by tomorrow for part 2. Good stuff!!!

  25. This is seriously awesome! thanks for the advice. I was just reading this book called No Death, No Fear. it’s a really interesting book that talks about how there are no going, coming, birth, death. If we as human understand that our life just simply continue on, then we won’t be afraid of death. really interesting!

  26. Hi Ido. Thanks for visiting my blog. Your writings and photos make me smile. I especially enjoyed the talking duck :). It was a wonderful way to wind down from a stressful work-day. I’m looking forward to reading more of your posts and learning more about how you see the world. Take care.

  27. Looking forward to reading more.

  28. Lovely post!
    Very well said!
    Everything that bothers us comes from within. Our perspective and attitude towards an incident is what creates the reaction that can be observed.
    It is also true that it takes a conscious decision to discover and to change whatever issues cause us anxieties worry and unhappiness.
    You are really doing a good work with your blog and I am very excited to have checked it out!
    Lovely post, once again! :)

  29. Great post, can’t wait for looking forward the next post. Thanks for sharing this …. :D

  30. ‘nothing, nothing, is responsible for your suffering but your perception’ – WONDERFUL advice. Thank you for visiting my blog and “Like-ing” a post. I’m glad to have “met” you by way of it.

  31. Sandra says:

    Thanks for finding my blog. . . and I am really looking forward to following your blog . . . how inspirational.

  32. hakesplace says:

    Reblogged this on Welcome to Hakes' Virtual Cafe and commented:
    Wise words!

  33. hastywords says:

    I agree with this completely…..lived it in fact!

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  35. FlowerMeNow says:

    Hmm, that’s very true ! Everything is relative !

  36. vudragovich says:

    Thank you for having visited my site. I hear lots of familiar stuff here. I just need to make the time and read it :) I know it will be better when I am done reading it, it is just reading it. Will be back! Dave

  37. mostlikelly says:

    this is great! it really resonates with me because i spend so much time worrying about the things i cannot control. it’s not my environment i need to change, it’s my perception that i need to adjust.
    thanks!

  38. colonialist says:

    Reminds one of the saying that if you don’t worry, you die. If you do worry, you still die. So why worry?

  39. Barbara says:

    I saw a similar quote recently;
    The problem is not the problem. The problem is thinking that having a problem is a problem

  40. Thanks for this post (for me, personally, it’s a great timing :-)): I’m looking forward to the next.

  41. Mahogany says:

    Amazing post, the situation isnt the fear it is the potential outcomes. And to curb that fear we must find a solution.
    I love this, thanks. Many happy blessings to you :)

  42. letstalkaboutlit says:

    This was the perfect post for me to read right now, thanks–and I look forward to the next 2 installments!

  43. Ivan Matthew says:

    Perception and attitude towards a problem is always the cause and solution to overcome fear, and so different mindsets give different results. This post is very helpful! Thank you for sharing

  44. Life and Other Turbulence says:

    Great post. And, thanks for taking the time to stop by and check out my blog. I’m a closet writer…and started Life and Other Turbulence without breathing a word about it to anyone I know. Nice to have a random guest stop by, leaving me the encouraging LIKE… though I don’t post to garner followers, only to clear my mind of the many things that rattle around in it. It’s cathartic, and refreshing to write for no other reason than to simply express my thoughts. Looks like you’ve found a great avenue there too. I’ll be following along!

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  46. Thanks so much for stopping by and liking my posts! It lead me to your blog! Blessings to you!

  47. ivelisse7575 says:

    Great post, I loved it. :)

  48. mmadonna1 says:

    It enjoyed your post; looking forward to reading more. I agree with comments about fear and worry – two unnecessary although not useless emotions; they spur important action sometimes. Thanks for stopping by my blog too.

  49. monniiee says:

    Reblogged this on Monniiee and commented:
    so simple, yet so explosively (that word probably doesn’t fit, but I stuck it in there anyway) true

  50. scottfack says:

    This is a great post and ties in nicely with an online course I’m taking. What you are discussing here is what we covered over the past few weeks, so I’m excited that your blog and my course are discussing essentially the same thing. I love having several different sources to help me comprehend a subject fully.

    It’s amazing how thoughts can lead to feelings, and how quickly we can go on a downward spiral if we’re not careful.

    Thanks for sharing and I look forward to part 2 :) Peace!

  51. I love this post. To add to it, I will share something my sister sent to me a while back that I always try to remember and have written on a piece of paper up on my refrigerator:
    You wouldn’t knowingly let a thief into your home, inviting him to steal whatever he wanted out of your house, would you? There is no reason why you would do that. And yet, most of us do that very thing every single day – the thief is called “WORRY.” Worry robs us of living in the present moment; it robs us of remembering the gifts that we have in our lives and the abilities we have been given to deal with adversities. Most of all, it robs us of trust and faith in ourselves and our loved ones who are always present, always here to help. It is time NOW to stop allowing the thief of happiness to enter your life.

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  53. Just got fired by your boss – you’re example, well you are responsible for this. In side there may have been the wish for change, or your did not well at the job due to your lessons around work attitude, there is more than only fear at the root of all evil in your life. Everything!including illness is to break down to a root in yourself – mostly subconscious because people do not look inside and instead are looking for the ‘who’ve- done-it’

  54. Wonderful post! I really liked it, very well written and thought provoking. I am waiting for your other posts on the subject as well. Keep them coming!

  55. ambikasingh2 says:

    :) excellent blog….just what I was looking for!

  56. circulartree says:

    Brilliant post, it expresses such wisdom and insight. And the key to freedom: LOVE!

  57. Ana Lavinia says:

    I wish I knew this few months ago and use all the money I spent on therapy to visit Costa Rica :))))

  58. Great post and site – thanks for sharing. And thanks for reading my posts over at mindfulmonth.wordpress.com!

  59. LayonieJae says:

    I’ve just tweeted this!! Love it : )

  60. coastalmom says:

    I love this blog and the author is amazing. And….maybe I am a teensie bit jealous…but I have tried to unfollow it because it is generating over 200 replies every morning when I get up…I barely have time to keep up with my own blog let alone, this one or even deleting it all so I can get to my own emails… I guess I have to wonder how you get so much traffic! Though I truly feel every post you write is read/worthy…. I must say it’s a lot of work following here!!! lol.

  61. Safiyah Naemah says:

    Thanks for sharing. Your words are so true.

  62. wow your blog is very interesting i think

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  64. I woke up this morning thinking these very thoughts on worry. I have a bit of a cold still hanging around, and my reaction is to worry and stress about it. This makes me feel emotionally bad as well as physically bad. It occurred to me, instead of worrying, maybe I could do what my friend did recently – take good care of myself, address the cold, and stop judging myself for being a little sick.

    Thank you so much for this post. It was just what I needed.

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  66. LovedOne says:

    Oh so true… “out of the heart the mouth speaks” – Luke 6:45 We need to work on cleansing within in order to live fully with others. Thanks for this post :)

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  72. Thanks for the reminder, Ido, and for visiting my blog. Looking forward to reading more of yours.

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  74. becky6259 says:

    The song “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” kept going through my head as I was reading this, lol–fantastic post!

  75. Fantastic post. Here’s to becoming more aware!

  76. poetryinanemptycokecan says:

    Inspiring post and I do agree. The problem is maintaining this point of view when you have held the opposing view for so long…

  77. Ulya aulia29 says:

    when i read this post, i realize that my trouble comes from my self.
    this is a great post….

  78. Jess says:

    You have summed it up so simply and beautifully :) I started thinking like this since reading The Power of Now (have you read it?) I have to admit that I forget and fall back into habit/trap but it a great way to live/think. Thankyou.

  79. graphylalia says:

    Very inspiring. I hope to apply it in my life.

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  86. haymitch911 says:

    spot on. thanks, I cant wait to read more

  87. jperez89 says:

    Nice post! My favorite line : “nothing is responsible for your suffering other than your perception” .. I write about similar things on my blog. I would really appreciate if you can take a look at it and give me some feedback.

  88. Really enjoyed this…helps put worry in perspective. And it couldn’t have come at a better time in my life; many worries swirling around in my head.

  89. Argus says:

    As an academic exercise I’ve sometimes put myself in the position of guest of honour at a hanging or firing squad—what would I think, how would I handle it?

    In the end I concluded that so long as they let me walk freely to the scaffold/post, no problem. But if they insisted on handcuffing or otherwise manhandling me they’d better be awfully good at it and very much bigger than me …

  90. Konni Kim says:

    I truly agree with the Jack Sparrow quote… This post is so insightful and helpful!

  91. yingyangyoga says:

    i think the answer lies in the freedom to choose how to react. even if it’s a fraction of a second -like Viktor Frankel during Holocaust. Bc i can’t see the Holocaust any other way than ‘badness’. when we know we can choose to be calm or snap back and we become aware of that freedom herein lies the secret

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  93. marybirch says:

    I love this blog, and this post! Thanks!

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