Are You Self Aware?

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Ohhhh I missed that so much!

Every time I promise that I will keep writing every day and than one month passes because I can’t find the time.. Alright, this time I promise not to promise anymore, but here are my 2 cents 4 2day.

Do you know what is self-awareness? People are using this term all the time though it seems that its full meaning is unclear. For example, you woke up in the morning, standing infront of the mirror and saying to yourself – ‘Oh my god, my nose is so long / my forehead is so big / I’m ugly 2day’, does it mean that you are self aware to your look? No. That means that you are looking at the world through your fears. Being self aware means looking at those fears instead of through them. So a self aware way of looking at the mirror that morning will be more like – ‘I feel bad because I hold a belief that I’m ugly’.

It is the act of looking at your feelings in real time instead of being them.

Brain chartHere is another example (With a chart!!) – 20 minutes late, You are driving your car to work, when suddenly some guy violently cuts you off. Shocked, you stop your car at once and start mumbling something like ‘Oh this f**** stupid d***a** f***, who gave you a license?!’. You are about to keep on driving again when suddenly the car behind start honking so hard, and the driver screams from the window: ‘Start moving asshole!!! I have to attend McDonalds to eat a super mega tripel double mcRoyal with some deep oiled chips in the size of a building and 2 liters of Coca-Cola! Burp’. Now you get really mad. You keep on driving incautiously to work, your face is red and your whole day looks like shit.
That was the not self-aware you, the one who was driven by his fears and feelings.
The self aware you, would immediately stop and say to himself – ‘I feel very angry right now’, thus looking at your emotions and not act through them.

But what’s the difference? Well the scientific difference is that as long as you are not self aware, meaning get angrier and angrier and not stopping to look at that, this anger shows up in the back of your brain – the unconscious one (which is about 95% of your brain size). Once you notice how angry you are, this anger moves from the unconscious part of your brain to the conscious one. Once it is there, your brain and body starts to destroy it, thus get you calm much faster. Truth is, that up until any kind of feeling gets to the conscious part of your brain – it can never leave.

You know what’s really cool about it? There is no sign of this awareness anywhere in the brain. When looking at peoples brains there is no sign of this awareness. There is a very clear seeing as the anger (or any other feeling) awakens in the unconscious part, and than at some point it moves to the conscious part, but no one have yet seen this thing which is looking at the brain from the outside and recognize the anger. Where is this awareness? Is it not included in the physical? Probably. It is higher than the brain, sees everything from the brid’s eye view. It is free of any judgement, it just looks objectively at a given situation and sees it for what it is. It is gentle omnipresent.

I like my awareness!

Peace all :-)

B.T.W – If you are looking for some kind of a personal growth or blogging advice and wanna chat, we can do it here.

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How to overcome barriers?

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I think that this is an issue that we are all familiar with – you have to do something for work, have to pay a fine, have to email someone. You have to create, have to make some food, have to clean the house. But you just can’t find the strengths. Instead, you sit infront of the television or the computer screen, doing nothing undercover and feeling very bad about it.
Now there are a few factors that can cause this, but what is really important to understand here is that we are not talking about a local treatment that will help you get over yourself this time. Instead I would like to talk about a permanent cure.

OK Cool. So what can you do about it? Well here are some helpful tips to get over this issue: (A clue, as always, it does involve self investigation. Otherwise – no real cure is achieved, but just a local treatment)
(1) Here is your basic assumption for this process – No matter what needs 2b done, it can wait for 2 more hrs. If it can’t, than there is no barrier, you have no choice of doing that. If you think that it can’t wait, and you still find yourself starring at the screen for 80% of your so called ‘working time’, than it can wait.
(2) Now, after you’ve made some time in your schedule, you can begin. The first step is the self investigation. Write these questions on a paper or the computer screen, and try to answer them honestly:
* Is this a task that I have to do? WHY??
* What is it that I’m afraid of about this task?
* How does this barrier makes me feel? What do I feel like right now?
* Besides this task, a small other thing that I need to do today is.. (Do it now)
* One thing I would like to change in my life is: …..
* Recently, I find myself bothered because…

Good. The main idea behind this step is that usually the reason for the barriers is our mind, that keeps being so disturbed with other things that we have to do, other things that bother us in our life, tomorrow yesterday and so on.. All these questions are aimed at turning the lantern from the outside in, in order to shed a light about those things. Those thoughts and worries takes away our vitality and therefor create the barriers. This self investigation part is the one we use in order to find a permanent cure.

B.T.W, You can also just practice an Intuitive writing session. My last post was about it. To make it easier, I’ve just developed a free online tool for that, which can help you create a daily self reflection routine for yourself, no matter where you are (Even at work). Here is its link – The Reflection Room.

couch_potato(3) After answering those questions, the next step is to go and do something you like for at least one hour. Please notice that you don’t like starring at a screen of any kind. Seriously. This is usually either an addiction or a runaway from yourself. Get energized – go for a walk in the beach / park / city market, play a musical instrument / write / paint / dance, practice a sport of some kind. Meet a love one with the intention to laugh and have fun. Play with a little child (The best cure for everything). Read a book, Cook. Breathe some clean air. Meditate.

(4) If you are having too much fun, don’t stop yourself in the middle… Your task can usually wait till 2morrow as well, as long as you are getting closer to yourself full-hearted.

I think I’m done 4 2day,

Do you have any other suggestions?

LOVE.

Intuitive writing – My favourite tool for self development

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Hellllooooooooooo,

I’ve just published my last post about 15 hrs ago, which is kinda interesting as I never post more than once every week or two. But, as I previously said, I have too much to say these days, and becuae I know that you are all hiding inside my computer screen and I am sitting just infront of it, I guess you are the ones who should bear my chit chat.

Alright no surprises this time – you all already know what I’m going to write about. Have you ever tried writing intuitively for a while? I mean, for a few weeks or months, every morning when you wake up, write 3 A4 papers. If you did you might want to go and read some other post. But if you didn’t (Or tried and didn’t succeed), here’s what will happen once you will:
* Your intuition is going to reach new peaks,
* You will be blown away by your flowing-out-of-no-where creativity,
* Your dreams will become crazzzyyy,
* Your self awareness will rise as you will start observing your thoughts as they are written infront of you,
* You will start overcoming fears as you recognize their repeating and programmed structure.

9.thoughtsThis is how it goes:
(1) Take a pen and put it on a paper,
(2) Start writing EVERY thought that comes up your mind,
(3) Don’t stop until you reach 3 full A4 papers,
(4) Do it every morning.

OK that sounds simple isn’t it? Well it is, but if you’ve never really tried you will probably run into these barriers at first (I’m also talking about those who tried for just a short while and it didn’t flow):
(1) At first times, you might find that you don’t have anything to write, because no thoughts are coming up your mind. That’s wrong ofcourse, as our mind produces 70,000 new thoughts a day, which is about 1 thought per second. It occurs because the ability to listen to your thoughts should first develop. That’s great! That means that you are about to unlock a new wonderful ability. In the meanwhile, just keep on writing – “I don’t have anything to write, I don’t have anything to write….” till you will have.
(2) Then, after going through this barrier, You will first meet your inner censor. This guy, is the one who stands between your heart and mind. At first, he will not let you write things that look ‘wrong’ or ‘disgusting’ to your EGO/Mind. He will not let you write stuff that you don’t want to read, hear, see or feel. That’s OK. Once you first meet him, it is just a matter of days till he is gone, and voila! You are an intuitive writer.

* HEY, do it. It might look a bit frightening, doing it every morning and write 3 full A4 papers, but it really isn’t. You might need to wake up 30 minutes ealier (It is really important to do it as the first thing you do in the morning) but once you get used to it, you will find out that it worth it sooo much.

But that’s just me,

LOVE.

How To Follow Your Heart?

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Hi All,

Well good news… I’m back! I know I know, I said that I’m shutting down this blog because of my new portal 2BAware, but hey, I have just made a list and found more than 60 topics that I want to write about so here I am again..

Alright so let’s begin – most of you probably didn’t read my post Follow Your Heart as it is one of my earliest blog posts. Well just about a month ago a good friend of mine who is also a great writer, Jaden Larker, asked me after reading this post “How? How can I differ between the mind’s and the heart’s will?”
That’s a great question – as most of the time, if not all of it, we are a slaves to the will of our programmed mind. It seems that we have totally forgoten how to listen to our hearts, which are much smarter than our brains (Did you know that latest brain researches show that our heart sends to our brain 4 times more information than our brain sends to the rest of the body? Isn’t that crazy?).
When do we usually feel our hearts? When we are in love, when we are looking at a small child and when we are enjoying a hobby that we REALLY love, usually some kind of an artistic hobby. You see? The most important things in life are being activated by the heart.

07879870So now you have a dilemma – should I take this job or shouldn’t I? Should I break this relationship or shouldn’t I? Should I go eating McDonald’s or shouldn’t I? (That’s gross man, why do you even think about it?!)
And here’s the prescription (Not 4 McDonald’s, there is no prescription for that) -
(1) Close your eyes, take 5 deep breaths from the nose to the bottom of your stomach and out from the nose, relax.
(2) Move your attention to your heart.
(3) Say – I’m taking this job.
(4) Check how it feels – can you feel your heart getting wider? Is it starting to vibrate? Does it make you smile? Good – you should take this job.
(5) Say – I’m not taking this job.
(6) Check how it feels again – Can you feel your heart getting narrower now? are your breathes becoming shorter? Can you feel some tension in your chest, or maybe a small pain in there? Seems like you have an easy decision to make.

* Many times our heart and mind collide. Your heart says one thing, which is totally unreasonable (for the mind) and your mind says just the opposite, which is sooo reasonable. To make things a bit tougher, all the advisors around you will say exactly what your mind says. That’s because your mind is a programmed machine, and their minds are programmed just as well. So – don’t ask for any advice, and go with your heart. Always.

** It might take 2-3 times till you really get a hold of it. Don’t give up, once this ability is developed, you will always make the right decisions – even when your mind doesn’t agree with you.

LOVE.

How To Find The Root Of Anything That Is Bothering You? #3

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Alright so this is the last of post of this series, and in this one I’m going to explain what can be done once the root of the suffering is recognized correctly. (If you still didn’t read #1 & #2 plz do so before reading this post). In the last 2 posts, we’ve learned that the root of anything that bothers us is a fear which arises inside, and although it might seem often that a problem is external to us (“I’m angry because I’ve scheduled a meeting with someone who didn’t show up” – wrong) it is actually internal (“I’m angry because I’m afraid that because he didn’t show up, my business plan won’t come up as planned -> I’ll lose money -> I won’t have anything to eat -> I will die” – right). We’ve also learned how to analyze this tree of fears, till we get to the bottom of it.
And now, the big question is – “I recognized the root fear, what can I do with it?”

OK, So in order to answer this question I would like to create a seperation between 2 types of fears – The one that stops you from taking an action (quitting your job), and the one that triggers an emotional reaction (Anger, worry, low self-esteem).

1. The fear that stops you from taking an action – This fear is the fear of quitting your job, finding a new habit because you are afraid that you are not gifted enough, cleaning your house because you “hate it”. Well than, once you already found that the fear is what stopping you from taking an action, though it might be frightening in some cases like quitting your job, you take a very deep breathe and… JUST DO IT. Seriously, once you know that the fear is holding you back, face it. You are going to die someday you know, and you better not be led to your grave by this fear :-)
If this is the case, you might wanna take a look in a previous post of mine – How To Change Your Life.

2. The fear that triggers an emotional reaction (Anger, worry, low self-esteem) – This is the fear that is hiding behind all of your accusations (“I’m angry because HE/SHE lied to me”, “I hate all the politicians”…), behind your low self-esteem (“I’m ugly”, “I’m not funny/smart/good at anything”), and behind the many years of worry for all kinds of different things (Money, for example).
In this case, once you analyzed the whole tree of fears as discussed in the previous post and got to the root fear, well.. that’s all you can do basically. Thing is, that this is the only thing you need to do. Once you see the whole tree of fears that triggered your emotional reaction, a magical thing happens in your brain – It is starting to untie itself and restructures. The next time you will look in the mirror and feel bad because you think you are ugly, you will immediately know that this is just a fear and feel a little better. The next time, it will happen again, and you will feel a bit better again. After a while, this fear won’t have any hold on you anymore (And so does many other fears that are tied to it inside your brain). You will completely get over it, to the rest of your life. This is a quite a good thing, overcoming your fears, isn’t it? :-)

PEACE.

HOW TO FIND THE ROOT OF ANYTHING THAT’S BOTHERING YOU? #2

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Alright,
So in yesterday’s post we’ve discussed 2 things -
1) Everything that bothers you is born within you, as it is formed by your perception of reality and not by reality itself.
2) In order to go deeper, you have to be willing to take responsibily for it – thus accepting non conditionally that YOU are the one who has to change.

That being said, 2day I’m gonna talk about a way to analyze what’s bothering you till u get 2 the bottom of it. For that matter, let us assume that you woke up 2day, looked at the mirror and decided that you have a “bad hair day” and therefore you are ugly. Gotcha! you blame the ugliness (an external factor) for your suffering (Worrying, low self-esteem). That happens a lot lately, and you already know that you can’t blame your ugliness for the fact that you feel bad, but only your attitude towards your look. (because you’ve read HOW TO FIND THE ROOT OF ANYTHING THAT”S BOTHERING YOU? #1)

So how do you turn inwards? Well, here is the magic trick: You ask WHY. And when you ask WHY, there are 2 things you have 2 keep in mind:
*) The answer has to point at you – not at anyone, or anything else. It has to point at the place where your attitude is coming from. (fear, fear, fear)
**) The answer has to point at the NOW. It can’t point at 1 minute ago, or 1 minute after. Only NOW – because you are bothered NOW.
And once you ask WHY, here’s the dialogue that will run in your head, till you find the source of your suffering (By asking WHY again and again):

Dialogue:
Q: Why am I so bothered by the fact that I have a bad hair day?
A: Because that means I’m ugly!
Q: No, we’ve already been there. No external factor is responsible for my suffering (*). (Asking WHY again) So, WHY does the fact that I’m ugly botheres me?
A: Because everyone will laugh at me.
Q: No, ‘everyone’ is an external factor again (*). ‘will laugh’ happens in the future (**). (Asking WHY again) WHY does the thought that everyone will laugh at me bothers me now?
A: Because, I’m afraid (YES YES YES) that I won’t have any friends! (The fear is internal and it is now – this is the answer)
Q: YES! (Now let’s go deeper) – but WHY does that fear bothers me?
A: Because, I’m afraid (good) that if I won’t have any friends, I will be alone.
Q: So? WHY does being alone bothers me? (deeper)
A: Because, I’m afraid (exactly) that if I’ll be alone, I won’t be happy.
Q: So, WHY does not being happy bothering me?
A: Because, I’m afraid (applause) that if I won’t be happy, I will die.

Mission accomplished.

Everything that bothers is constructed by many different fears, that all lead up to the root – the fear of death (Which leads to the love for life).
But what do you do with that information? Well, that post is becoming way too long, so I’ll discuss it 2morrow.

b.t.w there will also be a 4th post to that series, in which I will give some practical exercises to parctice this new way of self-aware way of thinking.

In the meanwhile -
No Fear,
LOVE.

How To Find The Root Of Anything That’s Bothering You? #1

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This is the 1st post out of 3 that will help you gain a better understanding of the root of anything that is bothering you in your life. This thing – called fear, has many levels and it shows itself in various ways. A deep understanding of it, will help you find it behind each and every one of its masks and to overcome it.

There are 2 things that need to be understood before we can go any deeper. The 1st thing is the recognition that ANYTHING that bothers you comes from within YOU. Seriously, I mean anything. Let me explain – think of the last time that something made you feel worried. If you would place all the people in the world in the same situation, will they all be worried? Ofcourse not. Different people, with different life experiences and different thoughts, respond differently to the same situation. So did the situation create the problem, or was it the one who perceived it? Was your worry objective or subjective?

Am I saying that you are responsible for the fact that your boss just fired you from work and now you don’t have any money? No. What I’m saying is that this is not what bothers you. What bothers you is the worry that arise as a result. And this worry is just fear wearing a mask. Therefore, the fact that you just got fired can be handled without the fear (worry) that is currently involved and is what causing you suffering. As Captain Jack Sparrow (Pirates of the Caribbean) said:

Now, the 2nd thing that needs to be discussed and understood, is that in order to recognize (and solve) the things that bother you, you have to make a decision to do so. A decision to start looking at yourself, all the time, and understand that nothing, nothing, is responsible for your suffering but your perception. You don’t agree with me? than you will become a slave for an endless amount of randomly changing external factors for the rest of your life. What do you choose?

All that being said, tomorrow I will explain how to analyze each and every thing that bothers you, find all the different fears that are involved (there are a few in each situation) and finally how to overcome them all.

No Fear,
LOVE.

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Pulling the rope

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2 people are pulling a rope from both ends, Let’s call them Eric and George. In the middle of the rope there is a tension. Totally terrified that the rope might rupture, you run to them and ask how did they find themselves in this situation.
Both of them are saying: “He is responible for the tension in the rope – if HE wouldn’t stop pulling, the rope will forever stay tensed.”
“But, you also feel the tension in your hands, that’s because you are also pulling!” you say.
“Yes,” they are both saying, “but HE is responsible, He started, HE is the problem”.

Seeing it all from above, you KNOW that it is enough that one of them will stop pulling to stop the tension. Truth is, that the first one to do it will be the one to stay on his feet, while the other will probably fall on his ass, shocked by the peaceful decision of the other side not 2b a part of this fight.

Ofcourse, I’m not talking about a specific fight or argument, but about ALL the arguments, fights, small angers and big hates that have ever took place between every 2 people since the begining of mankind. I’m talking about the 1000 different times a day your mind accuse someone or something, even for 1 milisecond, in your momentary disatisfaction of the present moment. It is ALWAYS about u and someone else, or u and something else, pulling the same rope. Both of u are so sure that “I” am right and “HE” is wrong and refuse to leave this rope already.

But what is preventing you from observing it all from above, just like you saw the fight between Eric and George from above? What is preventing you from letting go from all of these ends of ropes? Letting go from all of your angers, worries, fears and arguments with your mother and father, friends and lovers?

CAN YOU TELL WHAT IT IS?
WHAT IS IT?
WHAT IS IT?

This can be pointed at. Seriously. Find it – and you shall be free.

Peace,

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I’m Back!

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Hello hello hello,

Alright so I know that it has been a while since I wrote or published anything, but that is just because I was so occupied with my workshop in the last week, as it was the first week since it launched.

But, here are the great news – I’m here, again! :-)

I also want to apologize to all the 200 beautiful people who waited for their comments to be approved, as I also didn’t have time to do that up until now.

So, here’s what coming next – the duck will be here for a 3rd visit (out of 4), we will also have some great music coming in the “Good vibrations music” section of this blog (The 4th post is now online b.t.w, check it out to feel the LOOOVVVEEEE coming at you :-)), and hopefully I will be able to bring you some more inspirational posts, to make you all feel happy and smiley.

One last thing – due the growing amount of people who are currently enjoying my workshop, the free sign up + 20 free entrances to each one who walks the whole path is relevant until Sept 1st. (Only if you are a follower of this blog) So… You are all welcome to do something great for yourself.. (Further details are in the below post..)

PEACE & LOVE.

Science of the stomach tension

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Hey people,

I would like to raise a discussion about stomach aches or basically stomach tensions.

It’s this uncomfortable feeling that comes up our stomach when we are angry or insecure, or maybe when we know something isn’t right.

I used to have them since I was a little child, right after I had a fight with one of my friends or when my parents got mad at me. Later on, this kind of a feeling that lasted for two month was the reason I understood that I have to break up with my girlfriend, after almost 7 years together.

When I’m lucky enough to be alone for a long time, this feeling can tell me which book to choose at the bookstore or which way to choose when I’m getting to a road junction. It seems that this feeling is a kind of an inner keeper, trying to make sure that we will stay unharmed.

What are your experiences with this feeling?

Please share them.

The play

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Let’s imagine that life is a play. And in that play there are 3 – the actor, the observer (crowd) and the act itself.

Out of these three, who are you?

I used to believe that I’m the actor. I used to hold a story of my own, about who am I and what I am doing here (a Jewish, an Israeli, a secular and so on…).

Later on I thought that maybe I’m actually the observer. Things are happening and I’m just watching them, knowing that my thoughts about myself are just the parts of a false self identity.

But lately, a strange feeling is starting to crawl inside me, one that says that I’m not even the observer, but the act itself, or the theater hall. Both the observer and the actor are contained inside its endless and quite space, doing just what they have to do in order to make the theater come to life.

LOVE,

Ido.

Am I Present?

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Are you present, now?

Are you fully present, letting your mind staying quite while you are reading this post? What are you hearing around you? How do you sit, infront of the computer? Is your neck straight or is it bent forward? Is your back straight? What are the smells around you? The taste on your tongue?

Are you present?

Morning, sunshine

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I tried. I really tried seeing the bad through all these years. Not that I did it on purpose, it’s just that this is what I was taught to do. You know what I’m talking about right? Because this is what you too were taught. It wasn’t such a difficult task, to be honest. “Here it is!” I pointed at another big red title in the newspaper that screamed: “CORRUPTION IN GOVERNMENT OFFICES!”. It was also very easy to see the bad in the behavior of people surrounding me, in the bad service I got from the telephone company, and also in the emerging Iranian nuclear bomb, the orthodox, the Arabs, the Jewish settlers and basically in everyone or everything that was external to me. And I didn’t even know why am I looking for it. It was just there. Easy job.

But one moment, probably between one angry thought and another, the sun brought my attention to the fact that it is shining.

“Hey man”, it said, “Your troubles are not my concern, or anyone else’s”.                                         “Oh yeah? So if you don’t care what my troubles are, why do you even take the time to say anything about it, huh?”                                                                                                                                         “You are disturbing me, please”                                                                                                                   “But you started talking to me!”

“I did it so that you shut up already! Or, to be more précise, I did it so you’d finally wake up from that long, very long sleepwalking of yours. Don’t you finally wanna know what’s REALLY happening around you? What reality really looks like, without your continuous jurisdiction over it? Don’t you think that it is time to see the objective, the pure, the stable truth that never changes?

“I do, it is time” I answered.

“Well, using your arrogant, “logical” way of thinking, I’d say that it is NOT logical that anything is bad. Just look around you. Your body is made out of BILLIONS of cells, each and every one of them has its own role and consciousness. Not even one of them is redundant. Together, they all form a machine that is so smart, that you can never, never fully understand it with your not so utilized brain, to say the least. You look around you and see animals, you give them names, and embarrassingly believe that you understand their nature. The light that is coming out of me, a HUGE fire ball hanging in the sky, hits earth, supplies heat that enables you, as well as plants, to live. This light enables those plants to create the oxygen that you breathe, that will later on become clouds, that will later become the water that you drink. And this is all very nice, but this amazing planet that you live in, is just one out of billions in your galaxy. It is one out of billions of galaxies in this universe, which is probably not even the only universe out there, as most of your physicians already believe. And in between all those stars and galaxies HUGE forces are acting, making this ENDLESS machine work in complete harmony. But then you come, you grain of sand, and start judging what’s right and wrong, good and bad, as if you are not a part of this holy universe, as if its rules don’t apply to you. As if you have the ability to understand things that are enormously bigger and smarter than you are”.

“So what are you saying?” I asked.

“I am saying that it is time to stop judging the universe. That as long as you believe that some things are bad, you will keep seeing those bad things throughout your life. The problem is not the “wrong” behavior of anyone around you, whether its not the Arabs, the orthodox, the government, the settlers nor the Iranian nuclear bomb. The only problem arises inside your head, which deems all those things as “good” or “bad”.

All you have to do is to lower your head and smile. No one ever signed a contract with you, saying that everything that you go through in your life will be pleasant. But no one besides you ever defined something that is not pleasant as “not good”. It’s you who came up with this twisted logic.

SMILE, DANCE, LAUGH AND PLAY UNTIL YOU DIE. BECAUSE IT IS JUST NOT LOGICAL THAT ANYTHING AT ALL CAN BE “BAD”.