Are You Self Aware?

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Ohhhh I missed that so much!

Every time I promise that I will keep writing every day and than one month passes because I can’t find the time.. Alright, this time I promise not to promise anymore, but here are my 2 cents 4 2day.

Do you know what is self-awareness? People are using this term all the time though it seems that its full meaning is unclear. For example, you woke up in the morning, standing infront of the mirror and saying to yourself – ‘Oh my god, my nose is so long / my forehead is so big / I’m ugly 2day’, does it mean that you are self aware to your look? No. That means that you are looking at the world through your fears. Being self aware means looking at those fears instead of through them. So a self aware way of looking at the mirror that morning will be more like – ‘I feel bad because I hold a belief that I’m ugly’.

It is the act of looking at your feelings in real time instead of being them.

Brain chartHere is another example (With a chart!!) – 20 minutes late, You are driving your car to work, when suddenly some guy violently cuts you off. Shocked, you stop your car at once and start mumbling something like ‘Oh this f**** stupid d***a** f***, who gave you a license?!’. You are about to keep on driving again when suddenly the car behind start honking so hard, and the driver screams from the window: ‘Start moving asshole!!! I have to attend McDonalds to eat a super mega tripel double mcRoyal with some deep oiled chips in the size of a building and 2 liters of Coca-Cola! Burp’. Now you get really mad. You keep on driving incautiously to work, your face is red and your whole day looks like shit.
That was the not self-aware you, the one who was driven by his fears and feelings.
The self aware you, would immediately stop and say to himself – ‘I feel very angry right now’, thus looking at your emotions and not act through them.

But what’s the difference? Well the scientific difference is that as long as you are not self aware, meaning get angrier and angrier and not stopping to look at that, this anger shows up in the back of your brain – the unconscious one (which is about 95% of your brain size). Once you notice how angry you are, this anger moves from the unconscious part of your brain to the conscious one. Once it is there, your brain and body starts to destroy it, thus get you calm much faster. Truth is, that up until any kind of feeling gets to the conscious part of your brain – it can never leave.

You know what’s really cool about it? There is no sign of this awareness anywhere in the brain. When looking at peoples brains there is no sign of this awareness. There is a very clear seeing as the anger (or any other feeling) awakens in the unconscious part, and than at some point it moves to the conscious part, but no one have yet seen this thing which is looking at the brain from the outside and recognize the anger. Where is this awareness? Is it not included in the physical? Probably. It is higher than the brain, sees everything from the brid’s eye view. It is free of any judgement, it just looks objectively at a given situation and sees it for what it is. It is gentle omnipresent.

I like my awareness!

Peace all :-)

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How to overcome barriers?

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I think that this is an issue that we are all familiar with – you have to do something for work, have to pay a fine, have to email someone. You have to create, have to make some food, have to clean the house. But you just can’t find the strengths. Instead, you sit infront of the television or the computer screen, doing nothing undercover and feeling very bad about it.
Now there are a few factors that can cause this, but what is really important to understand here is that we are not talking about a local treatment that will help you get over yourself this time. Instead I would like to talk about a permanent cure.

OK Cool. So what can you do about it? Well here are some helpful tips to get over this issue: (A clue, as always, it does involve self investigation. Otherwise – no real cure is achieved, but just a local treatment)
(1) Here is your basic assumption for this process – No matter what needs 2b done, it can wait for 2 more hrs. If it can’t, than there is no barrier, you have no choice of doing that. If you think that it can’t wait, and you still find yourself starring at the screen for 80% of your so called ‘working time’, than it can wait.
(2) Now, after you’ve made some time in your schedule, you can begin. The first step is the self investigation. Write these questions on a paper or the computer screen, and try to answer them honestly:
* Is this a task that I have to do? WHY??
* What is it that I’m afraid of about this task?
* How does this barrier makes me feel? What do I feel like right now?
* Besides this task, a small other thing that I need to do today is.. (Do it now)
* One thing I would like to change in my life is: …..
* Recently, I find myself bothered because…

Good. The main idea behind this step is that usually the reason for the barriers is our mind, that keeps being so disturbed with other things that we have to do, other things that bother us in our life, tomorrow yesterday and so on.. All these questions are aimed at turning the lantern from the outside in, in order to shed a light about those things. Those thoughts and worries takes away our vitality and therefor create the barriers. This self investigation part is the one we use in order to find a permanent cure.

B.T.W, You can also just practice an Intuitive writing session. My last post was about it. To make it easier, I’ve just developed a free online tool for that, which can help you create a daily self reflection routine for yourself, no matter where you are (Even at work). Here is its link – The Reflection Room.

couch_potato(3) After answering those questions, the next step is to go and do something you like for at least one hour. Please notice that you don’t like starring at a screen of any kind. Seriously. This is usually either an addiction or a runaway from yourself. Get energized – go for a walk in the beach / park / city market, play a musical instrument / write / paint / dance, practice a sport of some kind. Meet a love one with the intention to laugh and have fun. Play with a little child (The best cure for everything). Read a book, Cook. Breathe some clean air. Meditate.

(4) If you are having too much fun, don’t stop yourself in the middle… Your task can usually wait till 2morrow as well, as long as you are getting closer to yourself full-hearted.

I think I’m done 4 2day,

Do you have any other suggestions?

LOVE.

Intuitive writing – My favourite tool for self development

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Hellllooooooooooo,

I’ve just published my last post about 15 hrs ago, which is kinda interesting as I never post more than once every week or two. But, as I previously said, I have too much to say these days, and becuae I know that you are all hiding inside my computer screen and I am sitting just infront of it, I guess you are the ones who should bear my chit chat.

Alright no surprises this time – you all already know what I’m going to write about. Have you ever tried writing intuitively for a while? I mean, for a few weeks or months, every morning when you wake up, write 3 A4 papers. If you did you might want to go and read some other post. But if you didn’t (Or tried and didn’t succeed), here’s what will happen once you will:
* Your intuition is going to reach new peaks,
* You will be blown away by your flowing-out-of-no-where creativity,
* Your dreams will become crazzzyyy,
* Your self awareness will rise as you will start observing your thoughts as they are written infront of you,
* You will start overcoming fears as you recognize their repeating and programmed structure.

9.thoughtsThis is how it goes:
(1) Take a pen and put it on a paper,
(2) Start writing EVERY thought that comes up your mind,
(3) Don’t stop until you reach 3 full A4 papers,
(4) Do it every morning.

OK that sounds simple isn’t it? Well it is, but if you’ve never really tried you will probably run into these barriers at first (I’m also talking about those who tried for just a short while and it didn’t flow):
(1) At first times, you might find that you don’t have anything to write, because no thoughts are coming up your mind. That’s wrong ofcourse, as our mind produces 70,000 new thoughts a day, which is about 1 thought per second. It occurs because the ability to listen to your thoughts should first develop. That’s great! That means that you are about to unlock a new wonderful ability. In the meanwhile, just keep on writing – “I don’t have anything to write, I don’t have anything to write….” till you will have.
(2) Then, after going through this barrier, You will first meet your inner censor. This guy, is the one who stands between your heart and mind. At first, he will not let you write things that look ‘wrong’ or ‘disgusting’ to your EGO/Mind. He will not let you write stuff that you don’t want to read, hear, see or feel. That’s OK. Once you first meet him, it is just a matter of days till he is gone, and voila! You are an intuitive writer.

* HEY, do it. It might look a bit frightening, doing it every morning and write 3 full A4 papers, but it really isn’t. You might need to wake up 30 minutes ealier (It is really important to do it as the first thing you do in the morning) but once you get used to it, you will find out that it worth it sooo much.

But that’s just me,

LOVE.

How To Follow Your Heart?

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Hi All,

Well good news… I’m back! I know I know, I said that I’m shutting down this blog because of my new portal 2BAware, but hey, I have just made a list and found more than 60 topics that I want to write about so here I am again..

Alright so let’s begin – most of you probably didn’t read my post Follow Your Heart as it is one of my earliest blog posts. Well just about a month ago a good friend of mine who is also a great writer, Jaden Larker, asked me after reading this post “How? How can I differ between the mind’s and the heart’s will?”
That’s a great question – as most of the time, if not all of it, we are a slaves to the will of our programmed mind. It seems that we have totally forgoten how to listen to our hearts, which are much smarter than our brains (Did you know that latest brain researches show that our heart sends to our brain 4 times more information than our brain sends to the rest of the body? Isn’t that crazy?).
When do we usually feel our hearts? When we are in love, when we are looking at a small child and when we are enjoying a hobby that we REALLY love, usually some kind of an artistic hobby. You see? The most important things in life are being activated by the heart.

07879870So now you have a dilemma – should I take this job or shouldn’t I? Should I break this relationship or shouldn’t I? Should I go eating McDonald’s or shouldn’t I? (That’s gross man, why do you even think about it?!)
And here’s the prescription (Not 4 McDonald’s, there is no prescription for that) -
(1) Close your eyes, take 5 deep breaths from the nose to the bottom of your stomach and out from the nose, relax.
(2) Move your attention to your heart.
(3) Say – I’m taking this job.
(4) Check how it feels – can you feel your heart getting wider? Is it starting to vibrate? Does it make you smile? Good – you should take this job.
(5) Say – I’m not taking this job.
(6) Check how it feels again – Can you feel your heart getting narrower now? are your breathes becoming shorter? Can you feel some tension in your chest, or maybe a small pain in there? Seems like you have an easy decision to make.

* Many times our heart and mind collide. Your heart says one thing, which is totally unreasonable (for the mind) and your mind says just the opposite, which is sooo reasonable. To make things a bit tougher, all the advisors around you will say exactly what your mind says. That’s because your mind is a programmed machine, and their minds are programmed just as well. So – don’t ask for any advice, and go with your heart. Always.

** It might take 2-3 times till you really get a hold of it. Don’t give up, once this ability is developed, you will always make the right decisions – even when your mind doesn’t agree with you.

LOVE.

How To Find The Root Of Anything That Is Bothering You? #3

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Alright so this is the last of post of this series, and in this one I’m going to explain what can be done once the root of the suffering is recognized correctly. (If you still didn’t read #1 & #2 plz do so before reading this post). In the last 2 posts, we’ve learned that the root of anything that bothers us is a fear which arises inside, and although it might seem often that a problem is external to us (“I’m angry because I’ve scheduled a meeting with someone who didn’t show up” – wrong) it is actually internal (“I’m angry because I’m afraid that because he didn’t show up, my business plan won’t come up as planned -> I’ll lose money -> I won’t have anything to eat -> I will die” – right). We’ve also learned how to analyze this tree of fears, till we get to the bottom of it.
And now, the big question is – “I recognized the root fear, what can I do with it?”

OK, So in order to answer this question I would like to create a seperation between 2 types of fears – The one that stops you from taking an action (quitting your job), and the one that triggers an emotional reaction (Anger, worry, low self-esteem).

1. The fear that stops you from taking an action – This fear is the fear of quitting your job, finding a new habit because you are afraid that you are not gifted enough, cleaning your house because you “hate it”. Well than, once you already found that the fear is what stopping you from taking an action, though it might be frightening in some cases like quitting your job, you take a very deep breathe and… JUST DO IT. Seriously, once you know that the fear is holding you back, face it. You are going to die someday you know, and you better not be led to your grave by this fear :-)
If this is the case, you might wanna take a look in a previous post of mine – How To Change Your Life.

2. The fear that triggers an emotional reaction (Anger, worry, low self-esteem) – This is the fear that is hiding behind all of your accusations (“I’m angry because HE/SHE lied to me”, “I hate all the politicians”…), behind your low self-esteem (“I’m ugly”, “I’m not funny/smart/good at anything”), and behind the many years of worry for all kinds of different things (Money, for example).
In this case, once you analyzed the whole tree of fears as discussed in the previous post and got to the root fear, well.. that’s all you can do basically. Thing is, that this is the only thing you need to do. Once you see the whole tree of fears that triggered your emotional reaction, a magical thing happens in your brain – It is starting to untie itself and restructures. The next time you will look in the mirror and feel bad because you think you are ugly, you will immediately know that this is just a fear and feel a little better. The next time, it will happen again, and you will feel a bit better again. After a while, this fear won’t have any hold on you anymore (And so does many other fears that are tied to it inside your brain). You will completely get over it, to the rest of your life. This is a quite a good thing, overcoming your fears, isn’t it? :-)

PEACE.

How To Find The Root Of Anything That’s Bothering You? #1

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This is the 1st post out of 3 that will help you gain a better understanding of the root of anything that is bothering you in your life. This thing – called fear, has many levels and it shows itself in various ways. A deep understanding of it, will help you find it behind each and every one of its masks and to overcome it.

There are 2 things that need to be understood before we can go any deeper. The 1st thing is the recognition that ANYTHING that bothers you comes from within YOU. Seriously, I mean anything. Let me explain – think of the last time that something made you feel worried. If you would place all the people in the world in the same situation, will they all be worried? Ofcourse not. Different people, with different life experiences and different thoughts, respond differently to the same situation. So did the situation create the problem, or was it the one who perceived it? Was your worry objective or subjective?

Am I saying that you are responsible for the fact that your boss just fired you from work and now you don’t have any money? No. What I’m saying is that this is not what bothers you. What bothers you is the worry that arise as a result. And this worry is just fear wearing a mask. Therefore, the fact that you just got fired can be handled without the fear (worry) that is currently involved and is what causing you suffering. As Captain Jack Sparrow (Pirates of the Caribbean) said:

Now, the 2nd thing that needs to be discussed and understood, is that in order to recognize (and solve) the things that bother you, you have to make a decision to do so. A decision to start looking at yourself, all the time, and understand that nothing, nothing, is responsible for your suffering but your perception. You don’t agree with me? than you will become a slave for an endless amount of randomly changing external factors for the rest of your life. What do you choose?

All that being said, tomorrow I will explain how to analyze each and every thing that bothers you, find all the different fears that are involved (there are a few in each situation) and finally how to overcome them all.

No Fear,
LOVE.

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I’m Back!

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Hello hello hello,

Alright so I know that it has been a while since I wrote or published anything, but that is just because I was so occupied with my workshop in the last week, as it was the first week since it launched.

But, here are the great news – I’m here, again! :-)

I also want to apologize to all the 200 beautiful people who waited for their comments to be approved, as I also didn’t have time to do that up until now.

So, here’s what coming next – the duck will be here for a 3rd visit (out of 4), we will also have some great music coming in the “Good vibrations music” section of this blog (The 4th post is now online b.t.w, check it out to feel the LOOOVVVEEEE coming at you :-)), and hopefully I will be able to bring you some more inspirational posts, to make you all feel happy and smiley.

One last thing – due the growing amount of people who are currently enjoying my workshop, the free sign up + 20 free entrances to each one who walks the whole path is relevant until Sept 1st. (Only if you are a follower of this blog) So… You are all welcome to do something great for yourself.. (Further details are in the below post..)

PEACE & LOVE.

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Good Vibrations music #4

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Oh I haven’t been here for a while..

Well what can I say, here’s the trick with this eternal song – sing the background voices – “Love, Love, Love…” and see how it makes you feel :-)

All You Need Is LOVE