How To Find The Root Of Anything That Is Bothering You? #3

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Alright so this is the last of post of this series, and in this one I’m going to explain what can be done once the root of the suffering is recognized correctly. (If you still didn’t read #1 & #2 plz do so before reading this post). In the last 2 posts, we’ve learned that the root of anything that bothers us is a fear which arises inside, and although it might seem often that a problem is external to us (“I’m angry because I’ve scheduled a meeting with someone who didn’t show up” – wrong) it is actually internal (“I’m angry because I’m afraid that because he didn’t show up, my business plan won’t come up as planned -> I’ll lose money -> I won’t have anything to eat -> I will die” – right). We’ve also learned how to analyze this tree of fears, till we get to the bottom of it.
And now, the big question is – “I recognized the root fear, what can I do with it?”

OK, So in order to answer this question I would like to create a seperation between 2 types of fears – The one that stops you from taking an action (quitting your job), and the one that triggers an emotional reaction (Anger, worry, low self-esteem).

1. The fear that stops you from taking an action – This fear is the fear of quitting your job, finding a new habit because you are afraid that you are not gifted enough, cleaning your house because you “hate it”. Well than, once you already found that the fear is what stopping you from taking an action, though it might be frightening in some cases like quitting your job, you take a very deep breathe and… JUST DO IT. Seriously, once you know that the fear is holding you back, face it. You are going to die someday you know, and you better not be led to your grave by this fear :-)
If this is the case, you might wanna take a look in a previous post of mine – How To Change Your Life.

2. The fear that triggers an emotional reaction (Anger, worry, low self-esteem) – This is the fear that is hiding behind all of your accusations (“I’m angry because HE/SHE lied to me”, “I hate all the politicians”…), behind your low self-esteem (“I’m ugly”, “I’m not funny/smart/good at anything”), and behind the many years of worry for all kinds of different things (Money, for example).
In this case, once you analyzed the whole tree of fears as discussed in the previous post and got to the root fear, well.. that’s all you can do basically. Thing is, that this is the only thing you need to do. Once you see the whole tree of fears that triggered your emotional reaction, a magical thing happens in your brain – It is starting to untie itself and restructures. The next time you will look in the mirror and feel bad because you think you are ugly, you will immediately know that this is just a fear and feel a little better. The next time, it will happen again, and you will feel a bit better again. After a while, this fear won’t have any hold on you anymore (And so does many other fears that are tied to it inside your brain). You will completely get over it, to the rest of your life. This is a quite a good thing, overcoming your fears, isn’t it? :-)

PEACE.

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How To Find The Root Of Anything That’s Bothering You? #1

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This is the 1st post out of 3 that will help you gain a better understanding of the root of anything that is bothering you in your life. This thing – called fear, has many levels and it shows itself in various ways. A deep understanding of it, will help you find it behind each and every one of its masks and to overcome it.

There are 2 things that need to be understood before we can go any deeper. The 1st thing is the recognition that ANYTHING that bothers you comes from within YOU. Seriously, I mean anything. Let me explain – think of the last time that something made you feel worried. If you would place all the people in the world in the same situation, will they all be worried? Ofcourse not. Different people, with different life experiences and different thoughts, respond differently to the same situation. So did the situation create the problem, or was it the one who perceived it? Was your worry objective or subjective?

Am I saying that you are responsible for the fact that your boss just fired you from work and now you don’t have any money? No. What I’m saying is that this is not what bothers you. What bothers you is the worry that arise as a result. And this worry is just fear wearing a mask. Therefore, the fact that you just got fired can be handled without the fear (worry) that is currently involved and is what causing you suffering. As Captain Jack Sparrow (Pirates of the Caribbean) said:

Now, the 2nd thing that needs to be discussed and understood, is that in order to recognize (and solve) the things that bother you, you have to make a decision to do so. A decision to start looking at yourself, all the time, and understand that nothing, nothing, is responsible for your suffering but your perception. You don’t agree with me? than you will become a slave for an endless amount of randomly changing external factors for the rest of your life. What do you choose?

All that being said, tomorrow I will explain how to analyze each and every thing that bothers you, find all the different fears that are involved (there are a few in each situation) and finally how to overcome them all.

No Fear,
LOVE.

How to change your life?

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Lately, many people ask me after reading my about page or posts like Follow Your Heart – “how do you do that?”. Many people around me are very interested in how I manage to live a full and dynamic life, so here it is.

First of all, life is a game, and I believe that we should all find the ways to enjoy it as much as we can. This being said, we all have many things that need to be changed in order to enjoy this game (Changes are the flow of this game called ‘life’). These changes can be major, like ending a relationship or quitting a job (Doing major changes means that you are about to win this game), can be mediocre like finding a new creative habit (you are defintely winning this game), and can be minor – like going out and play with a friend / family member 2day (jackpot).

So, here’s how I find what I want to change, and here’s also how I do it:
(1) Find out what needs a change – This is the most important part. Take a pen and a paper and write down all the pieces of the pie you call ‘my life’. It consists of your habits (“I don’t have enough habits” is also a piece of this pie), ALL your relationships, your job, the place where you live, the things you eat and so on.. YOU HAVE TO SEE IT ALL WRITTEN INFRONT OF YOUR EYES.
(2) Examine – For each piece of this pie, HONESTLY ask yourself if it serves you or not (and why). By ‘serves’ I mean helps you to achieve ALL your dreams (My dream is to live a varied life, so this is a good reason to change things often).
(3) Find what stops you – Now, write what are the reasons that you didn’t change those things so far (“because I’m afraid that…”)
(3.5) Don’t let the fear arise – At this point the voice in your head will start screaming – “You can’t do it!! You don’t have enough money!! You won’t have any friends!! This is stupid!!!” – Give him a cookie or something.
(4) Look beyond your fears – Choose the first thing that needs a change, and change it NOW. As Nike slogan says – JUST DO IT.

* I have a friend who has a job that doesn’t serve him anymore. He doesn’t quit it because he doesn’t know what will happen after he quits. Because he is working most of the time in a job he doesn’t like, he can’t find the time nor the strengths, to fully look for a new direction in his life. Don’t fall down to that trap – the first thing is to assertively CUT all the things that shouldn’t be there. Only than you can find new things to fill up the hole.

No Fear.
LOVE.

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Happy world peace day :-)

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It is coming,
It is truly coming.
It can be felt moving through space,
A new era of world unity and love.

The day, in which all stories will be unfold, is very close.
stories about countries, about religions, about seperation – will all be dropped at once.

May all weapons be dropped to the ground,
all boarders be removed,
all lies, blind hatred, unkindness be fade away.

may all sentient beings be free from suffering.

LOVE.

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Pulling the rope

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2 people are pulling a rope from both ends, Let’s call them Eric and George. In the middle of the rope there is a tension. Totally terrified that the rope might rupture, you run to them and ask how did they find themselves in this situation.
Both of them are saying: “He is responible for the tension in the rope – if HE wouldn’t stop pulling, the rope will forever stay tensed.”
“But, you also feel the tension in your hands, that’s because you are also pulling!” you say.
“Yes,” they are both saying, “but HE is responsible, He started, HE is the problem”.

Seeing it all from above, you KNOW that it is enough that one of them will stop pulling to stop the tension. Truth is, that the first one to do it will be the one to stay on his feet, while the other will probably fall on his ass, shocked by the peaceful decision of the other side not 2b a part of this fight.

Ofcourse, I’m not talking about a specific fight or argument, but about ALL the arguments, fights, small angers and big hates that have ever took place between every 2 people since the begining of mankind. I’m talking about the 1000 different times a day your mind accuse someone or something, even for 1 milisecond, in your momentary disatisfaction of the present moment. It is ALWAYS about u and someone else, or u and something else, pulling the same rope. Both of u are so sure that “I” am right and “HE” is wrong and refuse to leave this rope already.

But what is preventing you from observing it all from above, just like you saw the fight between Eric and George from above? What is preventing you from letting go from all of these ends of ropes? Letting go from all of your angers, worries, fears and arguments with your mother and father, friends and lovers?

CAN YOU TELL WHAT IT IS?
WHAT IS IT?
WHAT IS IT?

This can be pointed at. Seriously. Find it – and you shall be free.

Peace,

How to overcome ANYTHING

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Hi all,

Just a few days ago, one of the readers of my last post about insecurity asked me to talk about the way out, meaning how to overcome insecurity. So, in this post I’m talking about the way out of anything, not only of insecurity.

Hope you enjoy it :-)

b.t.w you can subscribe to my YouTube channel by clicking the “subscribe” button in the upper left corner. I will start uploading to this channel lots of videos soon which will not be in this blog, because here I do prefer to write.

PEACE

Follow your heart

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I’ve always had this dream, in which I’m sitting on a beautiful beach in paradise, just living my life there, doing what I love and have to do.

And I was just holding it there, in the back of my head, letting the dream rest, totally ignoring the background voices – the thoughts that appeared, the “right” and “wrong” of my surroundings.

One day, my heart started talking. It was a different language than my mind’s language. It was not a language made of words, it was a language made of chest vibrations, sounds and feelings. It is a language made of Universe’s dance.  And no matter how big was the collision between my heart and my mind, it was so clear that one speaks truth and the other is just a great lier.

Two weeks ago I’ve opened my eyes on a white beach in Mauritius, now doing all I Love and Have to do here in the next few months.

Thank you heart, for leading me through each and every moment of my life.

Thank you great silence, for being eternily present.

Thank you, all that there is, for being.

The play

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Let’s imagine that life is a play. And in that play there are 3 – the actor, the observer (crowd) and the act itself.

Out of these three, who are you?

I used to believe that I’m the actor. I used to hold a story of my own, about who am I and what I am doing here (a Jewish, an Israeli, a secular and so on…).

Later on I thought that maybe I’m actually the observer. Things are happening and I’m just watching them, knowing that my thoughts about myself are just the parts of a false self identity.

But lately, a strange feeling is starting to crawl inside me, one that says that I’m not even the observer, but the act itself, or the theater hall. Both the observer and the actor are contained inside its endless and quite space, doing just what they have to do in order to make the theater come to life.

LOVE,

Ido.

Morning, sunshine

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I tried. I really tried seeing the bad through all these years. Not that I did it on purpose, it’s just that this is what I was taught to do. You know what I’m talking about right? Because this is what you too were taught. It wasn’t such a difficult task, to be honest. “Here it is!” I pointed at another big red title in the newspaper that screamed: “CORRUPTION IN GOVERNMENT OFFICES!”. It was also very easy to see the bad in the behavior of people surrounding me, in the bad service I got from the telephone company, and also in the emerging Iranian nuclear bomb, the orthodox, the Arabs, the Jewish settlers and basically in everyone or everything that was external to me. And I didn’t even know why am I looking for it. It was just there. Easy job.

But one moment, probably between one angry thought and another, the sun brought my attention to the fact that it is shining.

“Hey man”, it said, “Your troubles are not my concern, or anyone else’s”.                                         “Oh yeah? So if you don’t care what my troubles are, why do you even take the time to say anything about it, huh?”                                                                                                                                         “You are disturbing me, please”                                                                                                                   “But you started talking to me!”

“I did it so that you shut up already! Or, to be more précise, I did it so you’d finally wake up from that long, very long sleepwalking of yours. Don’t you finally wanna know what’s REALLY happening around you? What reality really looks like, without your continuous jurisdiction over it? Don’t you think that it is time to see the objective, the pure, the stable truth that never changes?

“I do, it is time” I answered.

“Well, using your arrogant, “logical” way of thinking, I’d say that it is NOT logical that anything is bad. Just look around you. Your body is made out of BILLIONS of cells, each and every one of them has its own role and consciousness. Not even one of them is redundant. Together, they all form a machine that is so smart, that you can never, never fully understand it with your not so utilized brain, to say the least. You look around you and see animals, you give them names, and embarrassingly believe that you understand their nature. The light that is coming out of me, a HUGE fire ball hanging in the sky, hits earth, supplies heat that enables you, as well as plants, to live. This light enables those plants to create the oxygen that you breathe, that will later on become clouds, that will later become the water that you drink. And this is all very nice, but this amazing planet that you live in, is just one out of billions in your galaxy. It is one out of billions of galaxies in this universe, which is probably not even the only universe out there, as most of your physicians already believe. And in between all those stars and galaxies HUGE forces are acting, making this ENDLESS machine work in complete harmony. But then you come, you grain of sand, and start judging what’s right and wrong, good and bad, as if you are not a part of this holy universe, as if its rules don’t apply to you. As if you have the ability to understand things that are enormously bigger and smarter than you are”.

“So what are you saying?” I asked.

“I am saying that it is time to stop judging the universe. That as long as you believe that some things are bad, you will keep seeing those bad things throughout your life. The problem is not the “wrong” behavior of anyone around you, whether its not the Arabs, the orthodox, the government, the settlers nor the Iranian nuclear bomb. The only problem arises inside your head, which deems all those things as “good” or “bad”.

All you have to do is to lower your head and smile. No one ever signed a contract with you, saying that everything that you go through in your life will be pleasant. But no one besides you ever defined something that is not pleasant as “not good”. It’s you who came up with this twisted logic.

SMILE, DANCE, LAUGH AND PLAY UNTIL YOU DIE. BECAUSE IT IS JUST NOT LOGICAL THAT ANYTHING AT ALL CAN BE “BAD”.

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Good Vibrations music #4

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Oh I haven’t been here for a while..

Well what can I say, here’s the trick with this eternal song – sing the background voices – “Love, Love, Love…” and see how it makes you feel :-)

All You Need Is LOVE

Good Vibrations Music #3

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Hey all,

So although the last “Good Vibrations Music” post was also about “Playing for a change’, I just accidently got to see this great video clip of them, and I thought I have to share it with u 4 3 main reasons:
1) The name of the song is “Good Vibrations”, which makes it a great choice for that page.
2) It was shoot on the street, in almost aמ amateurish way. Some might say that it makes it a low quality video. Well, I really feels that it makes it human, real, and that there is a great perfection in the imperfection.
3) Everyone in that clip are soooo happy. And that makes it just a great Good Vibrations song.

LOVE

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Good Vibrations Music #1

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Hi all,

These kind of posts are designed to make you feel happy.

Starting today and once a week, during the weekend hopefully, I will upload one of the music video clips that I like to categorize as “good vibrations music”. The reason I categorize these video clips as a good vibrations one, is that every once in while, when I want to feel extremely happy, I just watch (and listen) to one of them. I mean, that is not all I do. I usually also sing the words outloud, dance, laugh, scream, cry and basically just letting myself enjoy the great love that they spread. And the results well… you should experience it for yourself :-)

So, with no further talking, here’s the best way to enjoy what these posts have to offer:

Set your phone in a silent mode and throw it on the bed, so you won’t hear the vibration (Really, do it). Close the door behind you. Play the latest video which was uploaded (or several of them) on a full screen mode and let it carry you to wherever you want to go. It is highly recommended to sing it outloud, or dance, or both together. Don’t be shy, the door is closed. :-)

Are you ready? here it comes:

With great respect, I would like to invite our first guest, the man with the biggest and most loving smile in the whole universe… Mr. Louis Armstrong!

 
Sooooo…. Aren’t you smiling? Any suggestions for more good vibrations music?

PEACE.