How to overcome barriers?

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I think that this is an issue that we are all familiar with – you have to do something for work, have to pay a fine, have to email someone. You have to create, have to make some food, have to clean the house. But you just can’t find the strengths. Instead, you sit infront of the television or the computer screen, doing nothing undercover and feeling very bad about it.
Now there are a few factors that can cause this, but what is really important to understand here is that we are not talking about a local treatment that will help you get over yourself this time. Instead I would like to talk about a permanent cure.

OK Cool. So what can you do about it? Well here are some helpful tips to get over this issue: (A clue, as always, it does involve self investigation. Otherwise – no real cure is achieved, but just a local treatment)
(1) Here is your basic assumption for this process – No matter what needs 2b done, it can wait for 2 more hrs. If it can’t, than there is no barrier, you have no choice of doing that. If you think that it can’t wait, and you still find yourself starring at the screen for 80% of your so called ‘working time’, than it can wait.
(2) Now, after you’ve made some time in your schedule, you can begin. The first step is the self investigation. Write these questions on a paper or the computer screen, and try to answer them honestly:
* Is this a task that I have to do? WHY??
* What is it that I’m afraid of about this task?
* How does this barrier makes me feel? What do I feel like right now?
* Besides this task, a small other thing that I need to do today is.. (Do it now)
* One thing I would like to change in my life is: …..
* Recently, I find myself bothered because…

Good. The main idea behind this step is that usually the reason for the barriers is our mind, that keeps being so disturbed with other things that we have to do, other things that bother us in our life, tomorrow yesterday and so on.. All these questions are aimed at turning the lantern from the outside in, in order to shed a light about those things. Those thoughts and worries takes away our vitality and therefor create the barriers. This self investigation part is the one we use in order to find a permanent cure.

B.T.W, You can also just practice an Intuitive writing session. My last post was about it. To make it easier, I’ve just developed a free online tool for that, which can help you create a daily self reflection routine for yourself, no matter where you are (Even at work). Here is its link – The Reflection Room.

couch_potato(3) After answering those questions, the next step is to go and do something you like for at least one hour. Please notice that you don’t like starring at a screen of any kind. Seriously. This is usually either an addiction or a runaway from yourself. Get energized – go for a walk in the beach / park / city market, play a musical instrument / write / paint / dance, practice a sport of some kind. Meet a love one with the intention to laugh and have fun. Play with a little child (The best cure for everything). Read a book, Cook. Breathe some clean air. Meditate.

(4) If you are having too much fun, don’t stop yourself in the middle… Your task can usually wait till 2morrow as well, as long as you are getting closer to yourself full-hearted.

I think I’m done 4 2day,

Do you have any other suggestions?

LOVE.

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Intuitive writing – My favourite tool for self development

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Hellllooooooooooo,

I’ve just published my last post about 15 hrs ago, which is kinda interesting as I never post more than once every week or two. But, as I previously said, I have too much to say these days, and becuae I know that you are all hiding inside my computer screen and I am sitting just infront of it, I guess you are the ones who should bear my chit chat.

Alright no surprises this time – you all already know what I’m going to write about. Have you ever tried writing intuitively for a while? I mean, for a few weeks or months, every morning when you wake up, write 3 A4 papers. If you did you might want to go and read some other post. But if you didn’t (Or tried and didn’t succeed), here’s what will happen once you will:
* Your intuition is going to reach new peaks,
* You will be blown away by your flowing-out-of-no-where creativity,
* Your dreams will become crazzzyyy,
* Your self awareness will rise as you will start observing your thoughts as they are written infront of you,
* You will start overcoming fears as you recognize their repeating and programmed structure.

9.thoughtsThis is how it goes:
(1) Take a pen and put it on a paper,
(2) Start writing EVERY thought that comes up your mind,
(3) Don’t stop until you reach 3 full A4 papers,
(4) Do it every morning.

OK that sounds simple isn’t it? Well it is, but if you’ve never really tried you will probably run into these barriers at first (I’m also talking about those who tried for just a short while and it didn’t flow):
(1) At first times, you might find that you don’t have anything to write, because no thoughts are coming up your mind. That’s wrong ofcourse, as our mind produces 70,000 new thoughts a day, which is about 1 thought per second. It occurs because the ability to listen to your thoughts should first develop. That’s great! That means that you are about to unlock a new wonderful ability. In the meanwhile, just keep on writing – “I don’t have anything to write, I don’t have anything to write….” till you will have.
(2) Then, after going through this barrier, You will first meet your inner censor. This guy, is the one who stands between your heart and mind. At first, he will not let you write things that look ‘wrong’ or ‘disgusting’ to your EGO/Mind. He will not let you write stuff that you don’t want to read, hear, see or feel. That’s OK. Once you first meet him, it is just a matter of days till he is gone, and voila! You are an intuitive writer.

* HEY, do it. It might look a bit frightening, doing it every morning and write 3 full A4 papers, but it really isn’t. You might need to wake up 30 minutes ealier (It is really important to do it as the first thing you do in the morning) but once you get used to it, you will find out that it worth it sooo much.

But that’s just me,

LOVE.

HOW TO FIND THE ROOT OF ANYTHING THAT’S BOTHERING YOU? #2

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Alright,
So in yesterday’s post we’ve discussed 2 things -
1) Everything that bothers you is born within you, as it is formed by your perception of reality and not by reality itself.
2) In order to go deeper, you have to be willing to take responsibily for it – thus accepting non conditionally that YOU are the one who has to change.

That being said, 2day I’m gonna talk about a way to analyze what’s bothering you till u get 2 the bottom of it. For that matter, let us assume that you woke up 2day, looked at the mirror and decided that you have a “bad hair day” and therefore you are ugly. Gotcha! you blame the ugliness (an external factor) for your suffering (Worrying, low self-esteem). That happens a lot lately, and you already know that you can’t blame your ugliness for the fact that you feel bad, but only your attitude towards your look. (because you’ve read HOW TO FIND THE ROOT OF ANYTHING THAT”S BOTHERING YOU? #1)

So how do you turn inwards? Well, here is the magic trick: You ask WHY. And when you ask WHY, there are 2 things you have 2 keep in mind:
*) The answer has to point at you – not at anyone, or anything else. It has to point at the place where your attitude is coming from. (fear, fear, fear)
**) The answer has to point at the NOW. It can’t point at 1 minute ago, or 1 minute after. Only NOW – because you are bothered NOW.
And once you ask WHY, here’s the dialogue that will run in your head, till you find the source of your suffering (By asking WHY again and again):

Dialogue:
Q: Why am I so bothered by the fact that I have a bad hair day?
A: Because that means I’m ugly!
Q: No, we’ve already been there. No external factor is responsible for my suffering (*). (Asking WHY again) So, WHY does the fact that I’m ugly botheres me?
A: Because everyone will laugh at me.
Q: No, ‘everyone’ is an external factor again (*). ‘will laugh’ happens in the future (**). (Asking WHY again) WHY does the thought that everyone will laugh at me bothers me now?
A: Because, I’m afraid (YES YES YES) that I won’t have any friends! (The fear is internal and it is now – this is the answer)
Q: YES! (Now let’s go deeper) – but WHY does that fear bothers me?
A: Because, I’m afraid (good) that if I won’t have any friends, I will be alone.
Q: So? WHY does being alone bothers me? (deeper)
A: Because, I’m afraid (exactly) that if I’ll be alone, I won’t be happy.
Q: So, WHY does not being happy bothering me?
A: Because, I’m afraid (applause) that if I won’t be happy, I will die.

Mission accomplished.

Everything that bothers is constructed by many different fears, that all lead up to the root – the fear of death (Which leads to the love for life).
But what do you do with that information? Well, that post is becoming way too long, so I’ll discuss it 2morrow.

b.t.w there will also be a 4th post to that series, in which I will give some practical exercises to parctice this new way of self-aware way of thinking.

In the meanwhile -
No Fear,
LOVE.

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The Duck #2

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* This is the second article in a series of posts which will explain how does the human mind works (And yours included :-)). In case you didn’t read the previous one, please click here or the number 2 in the right bottom of the image.

So this time, I went to one of the bars around my neighborhood to have a beer with the Duck, and to keep listening to what he has to say. As I saw him, he immediately smiled and excitedly asked: “Well well, do you have a solution for my riddle?”
“Truth is, I don’t. I know I’m not good enough with Math so I didn’t even try”
“HA! Bartender!” He shouted “Plz bring my dear friend a shot of scotch for his fixed brain. It might loosen it up a little”
“Hey! why do you say I have a fixed brain?”
“Because I gave you a riddle (1st dot) with some numbers (2nd dot), and you immediately assumed that it has to be a Math riddle (Straight line). You just drew that fixed, straight line between those 2 dots” He said and smiled, “And than, youv’e let this line shape your world so u didn’t even try to solve the riddle, because if it is a Math problem (1st dot) and your’e not good in Math (2nd dot) than you won’t succeed anyway (Straight line).”
“Oh” I responded.
“So, here is the solution. As you can c, it really has nothing to do with Math. Actually, the younger you are the easier it will be to solve this one, as your brain not yet fixed.”

“Is that the reason you said last time that these lines shapes my reality?”
“Yes. But I didn’t say it as a metaphor. It goes into the physical. Your brain itself is made of ties (the dots) and lines that connects them in a fixed way in order to invoke a thought. Every experience you go thorugh, everything you see or hear – they all create some more lines and more ties”
“And because when I was in school I was tought to do the Math when I see numbers, this kind of line was created between those 2 ties (dots) in my brain. I get it”
“Exactly. Therefore, what is needed in order to solve this riddle, is to think outside of the box, to go against some rules of thinking, to do not accept what everybody “Knows”. This is called creativity”
“Oh. Well I’m not so creative”
“This belief is a line my friend. cut it”
“How do I cut it? It is not possible to become creative! you have it or you don’t have it. right?”
“No. Totally wrong. As I see it, there are 2 main ways to cut that line. But I’m sure that there are much more. The 1st way is becoming aware to your thoughts as thoughts only, and not reality. Once you start observing your thoughts from the outside, just watching them come and go, you become familiar with their true nature – a subjective illusion that appear and disappear just like the waves of the ocean. At that point, your brain starts to untie itself(*). The 2nd way is to seriously learn new creative things. Have you ever tried to paint? playing a musical instrument? dance? Have you ever tried some intuitive writing? All of these and many others can be a great way to become more creative.(**) They will all create new lines and new ties in your brain, as well as untie others.”

“Got it. So, what are we going to discuss the next time?”
“I believe that next time we will take it one step forward. We will see how the lines are responsible for you being sad and happy, passionate and a fearful. This is going to be the real thing. Hey, until than, let’s play a game shall we? I’m going to add a photo for you, and you will try to think what you see in it. Remember, there are endless ways to connect the dots, and none of them is straight. As for me, I think that this is a dragon. Definately a dragon. What do you think?”

C u next time!

* A highly recommended book about the plastic brain – The brain that changes itself / Norman Dodge.
** A highly recommended book/workshop about unleashing one’s creativity – The Artist’s Way / Julia Cameron.

ONE

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Hi everyone.

So first of all I would like to say that I’m both shocked and flattered by the rising number of followers to this blog. I’m thankful to each and every one of you for your comments, likes and for keep on reading my posts again and again.

In this post, I would like to share some thoughts that have occured right after I ran into this amazing (and short) video.

So, if you’ve listened carefully to the speaker, you could hear him saying:

“Everything looks like it has been designed by an architect, a single mind. But ofcourse that isn’t true. This complex city was created by the collective will of the ant colony. A super organism.”

I think that in other words, what the speaker is trying to say (in the name of the scientists, I guess) is that there wasn’t any chief commander ant, who stood with a GPS in the middle of the colony and shouted “Left!!”, “Right!!!”, “Keep this going you lazy sons of a..!!” and so on.  It seems that all the ants (Billions of them) are a part of the same consciousness, a higher consciousness, that is not a part of the physical space. So what we are actually seeing here is ONE “creature” which only looks like many DIFFERENT ants – because our mind believes that any two physical objects are necessarily differentiated.

And the reason we can understand this fact when we are watching the ants, is that we are watching them from the outside.

NOW, what do you think that we will ALL see, once we start looking at ourselves from the outside?

PEACE.

Follow your heart

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I’ve always had this dream, in which I’m sitting on a beautiful beach in paradise, just living my life there, doing what I love and have to do.

And I was just holding it there, in the back of my head, letting the dream rest, totally ignoring the background voices – the thoughts that appeared, the “right” and “wrong” of my surroundings.

One day, my heart started talking. It was a different language than my mind’s language. It was not a language made of words, it was a language made of chest vibrations, sounds and feelings. It is a language made of Universe’s dance.  And no matter how big was the collision between my heart and my mind, it was so clear that one speaks truth and the other is just a great lier.

Two weeks ago I’ve opened my eyes on a white beach in Mauritius, now doing all I Love and Have to do here in the next few months.

Thank you heart, for leading me through each and every moment of my life.

Thank you great silence, for being eternily present.

Thank you, all that there is, for being.